While there is a natural rhyme and rhythm to when one meets friends, family and others in the course of a relationship, there can also be a level of exclusivity that can feel stifling or unbalanced. In fact, overly exclusive relationships where partners don’t want to include others are a hallmark characteristic of abusive relationships.
But having a sense of the road one came from can make the one ahead far less bumpy.
Different people will have a different comfort level with opening up or need more time. But you can also tell when one is avoiding these topics altogether.
Yet this desire can cloud our judgment and lead to poor choices.
It can even feel like too much work starting over with someone new.
It’s natural that the speed of relationships progress as a function of many factors, one of them being age. On average however, dating in the later 20s to early 30s tends to make it somewhat more socially acceptable to ask these more serious questions earlier on. If you think he’s not emotionally invested, there is a good chance he’s not.