The three of us spent the rest of the night talking and joking, and I lost track of time. “Greg and I are not a boxed set,” she surprised me by saying.
“I find you very attractive, but I want you to make the decision to be with us or just with him.” This was and we had our first date as a threesome that week.
We cooked together at Greg’s house, making jokes and giving each other back rubs. I suppose the feeling of familiarity and normalcy that washed over me that night would have seemed strange to an outsider. How could something as radical as dating a couple be such a non-issue? “I’ll come back in a few minutes.” The shame I felt when she “caught us” seemed like some conditioned response from years of knowing that girlfriends hate it when they know that their boyfriend is sleeping with someone else.
We watched “Harold and Maude.” Jen wore a beautiful dress and we compared our fashion sensibilities. Honestly, it felt very similar to the beginning of many of my heterosexual, monogamous relationships. I couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that she might be totally OK with it. She asked if it would be all right for her to join us, very timidly. After all was done, we cuddled under the blankets and I sighed out of sheer joy, “Oh! ” Eventually, life got in the way and our time together came to an end.
Dramatic daters — who make decisions based on negative events in the relationship – are twice as likely to break up as other couples, say scientists who have identified four different types of dating couples.