In it, she outlines the stages of grief, and what a bereaved person can expect from each.While the book falls short of fully describing the remarriage of widows and widowers, it is a wonderful reference to absorb should you wish to become better informed about the journey of bereavement and of your husband’s heart.
Many wives of widowers are hurt when their husbands refer to their late wives as “my first wife” or simply “my wife, Hazel (or whatever her name was! If you can relate to this issue, you must firmly but gently communicate your discomfort to your husband, and allow him the opportunity to be as sensitive to your “second wife needs” as you are to his “grief needs”.
By the time you marry, most of your husband’s grief journey will be complete.
Lovingly remind him that you are aware of the significance of these dates when they occur, and that you are available for listening should he wish to share his feelings.
Also, offer to go with him to the cemetery if that is what he desires.
However, as with all bereaved persons, there will always remain a spark of grief that must be dealt with on a regular basis.