“That’s the real issue—how happy are people with their interactions on the dating sites,” says Scott Kominers, a lecturer in economics at Harvard University.
On a site like Ok Cupid anyone can send you a message, whereas on the free app Bumble or on Tinder or e Harmony, only people you are matched with can get in touch.
Kominers thinks online daters could be well served by a service that isn’t quite free but doesn’t involve a subscription fee either.
Both kinds are popular, so you can’t go just by that.
In the 2016 Consumer Reports Online Dating Survey, more than 9,600 people who had used an online dating service in the last two years were asked which one they had joined.
If you know what you’re looking for, which by now you likely do, there’s no reason to waste time. Bumble is hugely popular, but the options for the over-40 crowd are fewer than in other age groups.
(Hence the lower rating on our part.) Bumble is similar to Tinder in the sense that you’ll swipe yes or no on potential matches, but it’s different in that the woman has to start the conversation in the first 24 hours after matching. Women tend to favor this app because there’s a lower chance of getting creepy one-liners as conversation openers, which in turn becomes a plus for men who want to meet women who are actually looking for the real deal. The most challenging thing about dating apps is dealing with the sheer volume of potential matches.
“If sending messages had a price or you could send only a fixed number per day, people you contact online would know you had to give up something to do so, which would incentivize better behavior,” he says.