Get ’emotionally healthy’ before dating Get as healthy as you can emotionally before you consider dating!!!
Avoid the parade of dates in front of your children When the parent is ready to begin dating again (highly recommended to not do this for a year OR more after the divorce), they should not begin by bringing ‘dates’ to the home for the children to see a parade of men/women.
You do not need to share every detail, but keep them informed enough to keep their comfort zone.
This will allow them to progress with you through this social development.
When the parent is ready to return to social interaction, they should go to events and meet people at church, parties, movies, dinners, etc. Be aware of ‘the rescue’ A parent is more likely to be motivated to find someone to ‘rescue’ them if they have children at home.
Being a single parent is a challenge for anyone, and this ‘force’ at work is to be reckoned with when opening up your social world.
You may still have a reaction when you begin to ‘date’, but it should be lessened when you approach it this way.