Whatever you do, avoid choosing a profile photo where you're crossing your arms or hunched over.
That includes wearing glasses or sunglasses, or even a hat.
The same logic likely applies to users on other dating services.
For example, if you mention in your profile that you like to travel, list a few places you've been and then ask: "What's your next destination?
" If you're an art fan, cite artists whose work you enjoy and then ask: "Who's your favorite artist?
Interestingly, OKCupid also found that men send 3.5 times the number of messages women send, suggesting that few women are aware of the advantages of stepping up to the plate.