But what is for certain is this: it’s ridiculous and will definitely (OK not definitely) ruin your life unless you use your brain about it. Because I just want us all to get along and have a nice time and you’re ruining it.If you’re someone who, like me, has been a massive tit about dating in the past: you have to read this. Being single can be lonely and it can be depressing, yes.
One way to survive it is to look at patterns of behaviours and decisions that have led us into terrible places in the past and think “maybe let’s not do that this time’.
We all live in the swamp together and we have to do our best to survive it.
- Natalie Clifford Barney- Sometimes what we call love is just a settling of old scores, or a seeking of forbidden pain, or a circuitous path to the kingdom of cruelty, or she may simply have confused lack of capital with heroism while searching for rescue without knowing from what.
- Vanessa Williams- When you're in love you never really know whether your elation comes from the qualities of the one you love, or if it attributes them to her; whether the light which surrounds her like a halo comes from you, from her, or from the meeting of your sparks.
If you’re someone who keeps getting curved to absolute hell by people who seemed to like you: you gotta read this. Because you’re a shiny star and it’s time you started acting like it. I don’t know if who you just went on a date with is indeed the love of your life. But being with a person who treats you like you’re a liability whilst you consistently show up for them is even worse.