“Chill is what Cool would look like with a lobotomy and no hobbies,” she writes.A couple of years ago, I had just gotten out of a relationship, the end of which I blamed myself for, and I decided that I needed to change.
It only makes sense that us ladies should enjoy the same privilege. But instead, when women are straightforward with their feelings, we get that “crazy” label coming back to haunt us.
I’m not saying I’m now 100% myself when going after guys I like. — Check in with yourself about your comfort with the direction in which things are headed. Especially if they don’t like you back and act like jerks. — If you sense the person is pulling back or that you’re being played, GTFO. Yeah, I still question my decisions when it comes to guys.
I thought I’d lay that all out on the table now, so I can tell you how I tried (and failed) to be the Chill Girl.
“Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot.” A “Chill Girl” is just like the Cool Girl, but according to Medium writer Alana Massey, the “Chill Girl” lacks a specific passion.
I’ll tell you what I am: boy crazy, obsessive, highly anxious, a tad OCD, introverted, someone who cries at romantic comedies, someone who’s susceptible to falling in love easily — especially if you have good taste in music and are emotionally unavailable — someone who “revenge-Tinders” when she gets let down by a guy (a term I coined recently after I found out I was dealing with a fuckboy and made it my mission to get back at him).