“I would write the same things you’d be saying if you bumped into someone socially that you found interesting and wanted to get to know better.
Ready the message you’re going to send out loud to yourself, and work from there — how it sounds to you is likely also how it’s going to come across to the person who receives it.” Mention what interests you and what you liked about the other person’s online dating profile.
Obviously I'm not so cheesy as to ask the same questions of everyone. Allows me to figure out, if we ever dated to the point of sleepovers, whether she'd want to get up and go jogging at 9 A. I could write an answer to this question that would last pages and pages. This question is less of a test than pure curiosity at work. If she says "the water" she may be into surfing or kayaking or a similar sexy sport. I'm not a secret social worker compiling stats on abused children.
M., or whether we could roll around in bed, maybe watch a movie and waste half the day (guess which one I prefer).__What's your choice for a last meal (before execution)? I want to hear how important food is to her, and how creative her tastes are. I'm, frankly speaking, an amazing cook, and I want to know what's she's bringing to the table (also helps me weed out the vegetarians, without having to ask; I'm fine with vegetarians, but it's like a religion, I prefer to know early). If she says "my vacation house in Bali" I know she's probably got money and spends time on exotic islands. I am deeply suspicious of people who are OK with them. This cheeky question is posed to see if she's down with a little sauciness, and how funny or creative she can be with her naughty answer. I'm an active fellow, and I like to know that people I'm interested in are as well. And while I'm not too much of a snob about it, I need to know what she's going to make me listen to.
“However, first-rule dates apply to first emails as well, so this question shouldn’t delve into heavy topics, like past relationships or the reason why someone’s doing online dating,” advises Marni Kinrys, a Los Angeles-based relationship expert and founder of The Wing Girl website.