Then we had our own 8 children and before we knew it – the subject of girls, boys, love, and marriage came up. While it’s tempting to try and tuck love into some tidy box, it will never work like that. Rather than depending on someone else’s “step-by-step”, listen to the Spirit and how He is guiding. The world wants you to think that your happiness depends on finding the perfect guy – or girl. If you are a believer in Christ, then your joy is found in Him. Read the classic love stories found there, follow the instruction of the New Testament, and don’t forget the wisdom found in the book of Proverbs.
As it turned out, a few months later I reluctantly agreed to go on a “blind date” and knew immediately that I’d met the man I would marry. So that’s as close as I could come to “marrying without dating”. True love can be amazing, but it really doesn’t “fix” everything. Even the Bible talks about “the way of a man with a maid” as too wonderful to understand (Prov. Observe them in different contexts – work, home, leisure – and ask others what they see too.
My husband and I pray most every day for the future spouse of each one of our children.
While I might not be a big fan of dating, I remain a devoted fan of love and marriage.
That’s what I told our family friend who was concerned that I wasn’t dating at the age of 26. It’s just that I found the whole dating scene rather depressing.